How to Bear the Wrong Someone Did to You | Tomer Devorah Part 4

What does it really mean that Hashem is נֹשֵׂא עָוֹן — “He bears iniquity”? For the entire Playlist of Tomer Devorah: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLF-aTKCqR7-o In this installment of my How to Become Like Hashem series on the Tomer Devorah of Rabbi Moshe Cordovero (the Ramak), we explore one of the most astonishing teachings about Divine patience and compassion and more importantly how you can make it a part of you to deal with life when others may hurt you. 00:00 – Introduction to the Ramak and the Tomer Devorah series. 01:08 – The purpose of Musar: Improving ourselves and emulating the Divine. 02:40 – Understanding the 13 Attributes of Mercy. 04:18 – Review: The First Attribute (The Insulted King). 05:46 – The challenge of putting Musar into practice. 07:35 – Introduction to the Second Attribute: Bearing Iniquity. 09:42 – The "Hollywood Star" Analogy: Life as a Divine scene. 13:40 – Deep dive into the Second Attribute: How God bears our sins. 15:18 – Kabbalistic insight: Creating destroying angels through sin. 18:00 – Zohar Teaching: Seeing the impact of our actions. 24:00 – Divine Patience: How Hashem sustains us despite our negativity. 28:44 – The story of Cain and Abel: Is my sin too great to bear? 31:40 – Practical Application: Being patient with others' injustices. 37:23 – Level 2: Holding space for others to repair their wrongs. 39:40 – Closing remarks, channel support, and how to connect. The Ramak explains that when a person commits a sin, that sin creates a destructive spiritual force. Yet Hashem continues to sustain and nourish that very creation rather than immediately destroying it — patiently waiting for one of three things to happen: that the sinner repents and destroys it through his Teshuvah, that it is removed through Divine judgment, or that the person ultimately pays his debt in Gehinnom. Think about what that means. Hashem sustains even the destructive force created by our own wrongdoing. And then the Ramak turns the lesson toward us: if Hashem can bear the evil that we create, how much more must we learn to be patient with the people who hurt us? This does not mean ignoring wrongdoing, permitting abuse, or pretending that harm doesn't matter. Rather, it means learning the extraordinary patience of Hashem — being able to carry the burden of another person's wrongdoing while allowing time for that person to change, repent, repair, or for circumstances to resolve themselves. We also look at the teaching of the Zohar concerning the spiritual realities created by our actions: how good deeds create good spiritual forces, while wrongdoing creates destructive ones. And we discuss one of the great challenges of studying Mussar: knowing what we are supposed to do is one thing; actually living it is another. The goal is not perfection overnight. The goal is to keep working, to keep trying, and to do everything we can to become more like Hashem. How much can we learn from the One who patiently bears us? 📖 Based on Tomer Devorah, the second Divine attribute: נֹשֵׂא עָוֹן — Nose Avon. #TomerDevorah #HowToBecomeLikeHashem #Mussar #Teshuvah #JewishWisdom #Torah #Ramak #RabbiMosheCordovero #Kabbalah #JewishSpirituality #SelfImprovement #Patience #Forgiveness #Emunah #Hashem