See Their Kindnesses - Like Hashem Sees Yours! | Tomer Devorah 8 | How You Can Become Like Hashem

How would your relationships change if you learned to see the kindness and goodness in others — even when they have hurt, frustrated, or disappointed you? For previous lessons see: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLF-aTKCqR7-o In this powerful eighth lesson of Tomer Devorah: How to Become Like Hashem, we explore the sixth of the Thirteen Attributes of Mercy: כִּי חָפֵץ חֶסֶד הוּא — “For He desires kindness.” The Ramak, Rabbi Moshe Cordovero, reveals a profound secret about the way Hashem relates to us. 00:00 - Introduction & 13 Attributes of Mercy Recap 04:08 - Midah 6: "Ki Chafeitz Chesed Hu" (Hashem Desires Kindness) 05:08 - The Palace of Love (Heichal HaAhavah) in the Zohar 10:18 - The Kabbalistic Secret of Charity (Tzedakah & Hashem's Name) 18:07 - Judgment vs. Mercy: How Kindness Sweetens Din 23:10 - The Destruction of the Beit HaMikdash & The Angel Gabriel 38:08 - Practical Application: Seeing the Good in Others 39:40 - Bringing Chesed into Marriage & Relationships 44:40 - Desiring Kindness Over Sacrifices 48:28 - Talmudic Story: Rav and His Wife (Yevamot 63a) 51:18 - Summary & Conclusion Even when a person has many shortcomings, Hashem looks at the acts of kindness that person has performed. When there is a side of merit — a kindness shown to another, a good quality, or some positive deed — Hashem remembers that goodness and has compassion. But the lesson does not remain in Heaven. The Ramak tells us that we are meant to imitate Hashem. When somebody hurts us, angers us, disappoints us, or behaves badly toward us, we should not allow that one negative aspect to erase every good quality they possess. Instead, we can learn to ask: “What good has this person done?” “What kindness have they shown?” “What good quality does this person have?” And then say: די לי בטובה זו — “It is enough for me with this goodness.” This does not mean pretending that wrongdoing did not happen. Rather, it means learning to look at a person through the eyes of חסד — kindness — just as Hashem does. When we begin to see the goodness in another person, something can change within us. Our anger can soften. Our heart can open. Our appreciation can return. And our entire relationship with that person can begin to look different. This is one of the beautiful ways in which we can begin to become like Hashem. In this lesson, we explore this extraordinary teaching through the words of the Tomer Devorah, the Zohar, Vayikra Rabbah, Yalkut Shimoni, and the fascinating discussion in Yevamot 63a concerning Rav and his wife. The story of Rav is particularly striking: even when his wife repeatedly frustrated him by preparing the wrong food, Rav's relationship with her challenges us to consider whether we can look beyond what frustrates us and recognize the good that exists in another person. We explore the deeper Torah question: What would happen if we trained ourselves to notice the kindness of others before allowing their faults to define how we see them? Perhaps the person who frustrates you also has something beautiful within them. Perhaps there is a kindness you have forgotten. Perhaps there is a good quality that deserves to be remembered. And perhaps learning to see that goodness is itself a way of learning to see as Hashem sees. 📚 SOURCES EXPLORED IN THIS LESSON: • Tomer Devorah — Sixth Attribute: כִּי חָפֵץ חֶסֶד הוּא • Zohar, Pekudei • Vayikra Rabbah 26 • Yalkut Shimoni 522 • Yevamot 63a • Ezekiel 10 • The principle of גמילות חסדים — acts of loving-kindness 🙏 If this lesson speaks to you, please LIKE the video, leave a COMMENT, SUBSCRIBE to the channel, and SHARE it with someone who could benefit from learning to see the goodness in others. Tomer Devorah — How to Become Like Hashem Rabbi Eliyahu Shear Torah Teacher • Sofer • Spiritual Life Coach 🌐 www.lovingkindness.co #TomerDevorah #HowToBecomeLikeHashem #KiChafetzChesed #Chesed #Kindness #JewishWisdom #Torah #TorahWisdom #JewishLearning #Judaism #AngerManagement #LetGoOfAnger #SeeTheGood #Forgiveness #SpiritualGrowth #PersonalGrowth #Ramak #RabbiMosheCordovero #Kabbalah #Mussar